Are we living by example?
Our children are crying for help, did you know they question themselves everyday and if you are no where to be found their lack of wisdom searches for knowledge that is best suited to them in convenience to their needs. In their eyes, they search for what looks good, basically what is being accepted in society. Their ears, they reach for things that sound familiar what is being played on the radio or television. Expose their bodies in ways that feel good, identifying with what gets a response. Trapped in their emotions, they search for knowledge that identifies with society's "ideals". Who is influencing your child? Did you know children learn the most from society and their peers? The outside world has the biggest impact on children. As parents how can we take hold of the negative impact. How bout taken hold of yourself, and living by example..?
We so often think by telling our children, "I want you to be better than me, not follow in my foot steps" justifies our acts and will in turn motivate our children not to be like us. Well if they don't know no different how will they know any different. Unless you have a "perfect" child will you not face obstacles like so. We don't poses the ability to be perfect, therefore we must accept reality. Accept what you teach your child verbally, physically, and mentally is what your child will gain most of their knowledge. Not just by you, but the outside world. If they can't see a change in you and how you want to impact this world for the better, how could they learn any different. As parents we have to change the ideal in our own parenting to that, that is best suited for our children individually. For no child is alike. Also, lead our house hold as we would like our children to lead there's. Scratch out the ideals of society's needs and wants and teach the true meaning of growth. For we can have everything materially in this world but if we lack the true meaning of life's necessities we will be forever lost. Its impossible to satisfy the flesh, for the world's itinerary of acceptance is constantly changing.
That "beautiful" black-off the shoulder dress is "in" this year, but out the next year. Not only is your pocket book effected, but now your left with a dress that will sit in your closet because its no longer accepted next year. Understand the analogy? You were literally accepted for a moment, but now in search to be accepted the next moment. How exhausting! Now your health is effected... Now stressed about what your going to wear tomorrow, the next day, the day after, and after. Your running your pocket book, forgetting about your bills, and now stressed about your outfit and your bills. Where's the sanity in that? We look "good" but inside we're completely lost. We can't identify with ourselves, with the people around us, and completely forget about the people looking up to us (our children). What are we teaching our children?
"Mom, but everybody is wearing it", "I can't go to school looking like this", "I have to have that or my friends won't think I'm cool", now they are running late to school, spending hours in front of the mirror and won't wear a shirt without a logo. We spend so much time trying to be accepted by society and can't understand why are children want what everybody else is wearing. They are like sponges, or did we forget what that quote meant? Not only are we promoting our children to be followers but, depressing the children that can't afford the logos. Little do they know that they are in better shape then the children who "have it all". It's unfortunate what walking logos can do. Spike up prices, and deprive self-esteem, and all because of us. We time after time promote the wrong ideas off acceptance, forgetting who we are impacting and failing to do anything to change it. Be the change we want our children to be. Lead by example.
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